Cloistered Dominican Nuns Corpus Christi Monastery

What To Do When Your Parents Are Against Your Vocation

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“To fall in love with God is the greatest of all romances;
To seek Him, the greatest adventure;
To find Him, the greatest human achievement.”

(St Augustine)


Discernment Process

When a woman experiences a call from God, the above statement of St. Augustine, rings true.  But what happens when a parent, a sibling, a friend or a relative discourages her from her pursuit of a religious vocation?

We offer these reflections for those of you who might be encountering this dilemma in your discernment process.

  • Pray to the Holy Spirit for guidance in speaking to those who may not be encouraging you in your decision to enter religious life.

  • Attend Mass and reflect on the Scripture daily

  • Remain in close contact with the Vocation Directress

  • Find a spiritual director who will accompany you on your discernment journey

  • Have a group of friends who support your vocation

  • Invite your parent or parents to accompany you to visit and attend Mass at the monastery; and talk to the Vocation Directress to allay their fears or concerns about religious life.

  • Encourage dialogue and open communication and assure those who are not supportive of your decision that you need to pursue what you are experiencing as God’s Will in your life.

  • Tell them about the joy and excitement you are experiencing in being called to religious life. Express your happiness in desiring to answer God’s call to be the Bride of Christ. 

  • Persevere in praying the Rosary and ask Our Lady to sustain you in times of darkness, difficulty, and discouragement.

  • Ultimately the decision is made with the willingness to cooperate with God’s grace in pursuing a religious vocation.  As Fr. Walter J. Ciszek, S.J. wrote: “God’s will can be discerned by the fruits of the spirit it brings.  Peace of soul and joy of heart are two such signs when you pray for guidance trusting in Him alone.”

Our beloved Pope Francis has stated: “Vocations are born in prayer and from prayer and only in prayer can they persevere and bear fruit.”  He also stated: “No vocation is born of itself or lives for itself.  A vocation flows from the heart of God and blossoms in the good soil of faithful people, in the experience of fraternal love.”